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We know that in these unusual times, many families are struggling – not only with social isolation, home education and economic stress – but also with controlling their children’s behavior. If your child is facing disruptive behavior before COVID-19 or if these issues are new, we hope that the following strategies will help you provide some tools to reduce conflicts and improve your family’s well-being.

Many of the changes in our daily lives that have accompanied COVID-19, such as changes in routine, changes in academic education, and divorces from friends and loved ones, have particularly affected children. For most, these changes contribute to increased stress, which children may perceive as resentment, tantrums, difficulty changing, quarrels, anger, withdrawal, and attachment to caregivers. .

Here are four strategies to consider when managing a child’s disruptive behavior at home. Positive attention

The goal of this strategy is to pay attention to the behavior you want to add and to pay attention to Children’s Behavior the behavior you want to reduce. First, catch your children well in praise. Praise can add the positive attitude you want your child to show, tell your child how well they have done, and make everyone happy! We recommend using specific praise: combine words of praise such as “Good job” or “Thank you” with the specific behavior you have observed and want to see more when you put the plates in the sink. “

Some examples are “Thank you for sharing with my sister,” “Getting started with my own work,” and “I love using your voice when I’m on the phone.”

Then ignore the little provocative behavior. For minor behaviors such as audacity, speaking, tantrums, or stupidity, ignoring should distract you from your child, which includes your words, facial expressions, and body language. Once you start, stop it. You should not ignore your child’s negative behavior until it stops – which can be challenging and often minor disruptive behaviors can worsen before they improve. With consistency, your child will begin to learn more positive ways to get your attention. Continue the “ignoring” phase of praising the target’s positive behavior, as shown. Ignore serious abuse or potentially harmful behavior, such as physical aggression or harmful behavior. Coping with big emotions

Parents and caregivers also play an important role in helping children control their emotions. Be with your children and confirm how they feel. Validation is an effective way to let your child know they are feeling well, and you can help them manage how safe they are. Examples of verification statements are “It’s okay to be disappointed” and “I know it’s hard for you to get away from your friends.” can help them to promote emotional regulation and the parent-child relationship.

For older children and teens, just take a few minutes a day to listen to your children or let them talk about a topic that interests them. Finally, everyone needs time to “cool down” when they experience great emotions. Everyone (including adults) should have a familiar place to cool off. It can be a bedroom, a special chair or even a sofa where they can go if they feel overwhelmed.

Consistency and routine

Young people with demanding behavior benefit from predictable schedules, boundaries and expectations. Create a general schedule for school days when camping online – you can include food, homework, rest and leisure. Also, set a consistent wake-up time and reasonable sleep time, which is the same as COVID, and follow this sleep / wake schedule every day.